How to Pull Off the Greatest Revenge on the Person That Did You Wrong!

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By New Reflection

Cost of Revenge

What brought this hub to mind was an article I read recently about an IT admin employee who is sitting in jail because he password protected a large portion of the City of San Francisco's computer system and added some extras and will not divulge the password. They say they don't know why he has done this, but then proceeded to say he was given a bad performance review. The (I'm assuming now ex) IT employee has given several passwords to the police after his arrest, but each one so far has been the wrong one. He refuses to give the right password. Talk about revenge! I guess he was more than a little upset by his bad review.

Revenge

First, let's talk a little about revenge. Revenge is payback; a way of settling the score. It can be something trivial and fleeting or it can consume you and last many years. Sometimes revenge is in the form of a prank, is actually quite funny, and no harm is done by it. Sometimes revenge takes a completely different form with nothing funny about it, harm being done, and criminal activity involved. Of all revenge, the affairs of the heart appear to cause the greatest need for revenge. That being the case, that is what I'm focusing on here even though a work related revenge is what made me want to write this.

There are several sayings on revenge:

  • Don't get mad, get even.
  • One good act of vengeance deserves another.
  • Revenge is a dish best served cold.
  • Forgive your enemies, but first get even.
  • Women do most delight in revenge.

(The last one I almost didn't include, but when I started looking into what I could find on the subject, it did seem that women were on the giving end and men were on the receiving end of revenge more often than not. I'm not going to get into the argument on whether men are just usually doing the wrong and deserving the revenge or women are just more emotional and can't control themselves.)

Different Approaches

I have heard, read and seen all types of revenge. There are old favorites like wrapping a person's house and yard in toilet paper or egging someone's car - these, of course, are all too tame when it comes to avenging a broken heart. Newer ones involve changing a person's password and changing their voicemail message to a less than polite message, emptying out a bank account, or posting very unflattering pictures or stories on the internet.

People have taken out ads, billboards, and had signs flown over ballparks in order to humiliate that person that did them wrong. More serious even still involve vulgar messages painted on cars, houses, etc. to let the world know what the offender has done. Damage is done to property in anger, especially to that one thing that is known to be the favorite item to that despicable person - the car is a common treasured possession for men.

 

The bad thing about a deep sense of a need for revenge is all bets are off and logic is out the window. People destroy property and go overboard to try to exact the absolute best humiliating revenge. The problem with this is that it can get very expensive legally. Now, there is help. There are websites available to help exact your revenge or to help advertise the revenge you have taken. Here are just a few I've run across while looking around:

http://www.revengeguy.com

http://www.revengecall.com

http://www.makehimpay.net

 

THE Best Revenge

 

Okay, so the how do you obtain the absolute 100% guaranteed best revenge? Whatever the situation may be, there does seem to be one type of revenge that is more effective than all of the others.

As trite as it is going to sound, the best revenge is to forgive, live well and succeed. The immediate satisfaction is not there, I will DEFINITELY grant you that. You know the one I'm talking about... The one you dream about - the one you fantasize about when you are thinking about which revenge you are going to use and you are picturing the reaction, the stun on their smug face. But the satisfaction is fleeting and will only come back and bite you in the end (either financially or emotionally).

When you do something spiteful, you might as well go to the other person in tears and lay down on the ground in front of them and let them walk all over you. You are letting them know that you are devastated and that they have an emotional hold on you.

So we have established that the spiteful revenge, although briefly satisfying, is definitely not the best approach. Okay, so now what? By carrying the need for revenge, you are keeping yourself from moving on and healing.

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Well, personally, I think the only way to move on is to forgive. Talk about the hardest thing in the world!!! It is easy to forgive people you like, but to forgive someone who has betrayed you deeply and doesn't even care - you feel like why bother! I'll tell you why - for yourself. Until you forgive them, you will not be able to move on.

Now, the forgiving part is not instant. It is not something that you can just wake up one day and say okay, I forgive them, all the anger and resentment is gone. You make the decision that way, but you have to remind yourself that you have forgiven them when the hard feelings swell up. Keep telling yourself that you forgive them, pray to forgive them, and eventually you will realize that you mean it and that you really do forgive them.

The next part is easier. Once you can move past what happened, live well and succeed. The reason this is easier is you are not carrying the baggage of anger, which is extremely heavy baggage. Now, everyone's definition of living well and succeeding is different. Mine is being happy; enjoying life. No person should count on another person for happiness. Be happy with yourself and who you are. The rest is just topping on the cake. It is much better to be happy by yourself than be miserable with someone else, trust me on this one.

Two Very Different Endings

Here are two stories I am very personally familiar with:

First story, a woman's husband cheated on her and left her for this other woman. The first woman stayed bitter about it and never was able to get over it. She dwelled on it and brought it up every time her children were together for family gatherings, trying to turn her children against their father. She died with the bitterness and had also caused her children to pity her for the last thirty years of her life.

Second story, a second woman's husband cheated on her and left her for the other woman. She grieved, she forgave, she moved on. After a while, she decided to become friends with him and his new wife (for the sake of their children) and she remarried someone else. To this day, she is happier than ever. About five years after the divorce from her cheating husband, her ex-husband came to her in tears explaining that divorcing her was the biggest mistake of his life. There was no going back at that point, though.

Don't get me wrong, each person's story will be different, but each person's life is what they will make of it. The decision is yours and the path you take will be of your choosing.

Encouragement

Some more quotes on revenge that should be taken to heart:

  • A man that studies revenge keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.
  • There is no revenge as complete as forgiveness.
  • An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
  • In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy; but in passing it over, he is superior.
  • You cannot get ahead while you are getting even.
  • Live well. It is the greatest revenge.

Do not give anyone the satisfaction to rule your life but yourself and God. Two really good things to remember during times like this: 1) I can do all things through HIM who gives me strength, and 2) all things work together for good to those who love God.

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Comments

christinekv profile image

christinekv Level 1 Commenter 3 years ago

Nice hub - I enjoyed it very much! Lots of contrast , words of wisdom and the imagery you included, some of it is too funny!

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Froggy213 Level 4 Commenter 3 years ago

Very good hub--thank you!

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

Thank you both. You would not believe all that people have done. I had so many that I wish I could have included, but didn't because of the vulgarity of the messages painted on the houses and the cars!

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marisuewrites 3 years ago

New Reflection, I am glad you added the forgiveness piece, in some ways, that is the biggest form of revenge.  You are lighter, and they are burdened with their own pain and guilt.  Or not, either way, you win in the end.  Anger is a heavy burden to carry thru time.

I'm lazy, I'd rather forgive, be wise, and not give toooooo many chances for them to repeat the mistake.  Besides, I'm pretty busy asking people to forgive ME.  LOL

I appreciate this thought provoking hub.

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

Although I have had more than my fair share of thoughts of revenge, I usually opt for the forgiveness. It is a struggle at times, but definitly the wiser choice.

Thanks!

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marisuewrites 3 years ago

You're right New Reflection, and sometimes it's what they least expect. One time, a person tried to hurt someone I loved. I spent many weeks frustrated and wanting revenge. It was eating me up and one day I saw the person who I was upset with on the street. He was laughing and being his obnoxious self.

I was the only one suffering. It opened my eyes. I worked hard to push off the hard feelings and resentment. One day, I walked lighter...and realized I was close to forgiving. When it happened, it was a physical relief. He never changed, but I did.

I am better for it. =) Thanks for your hub that reminded me of my journey and all of us to make clear and healthy choices.

dafla 3 years ago

You don't have to exact revenge on anyone. Karma will get them eventually. Alll you have to do is wait. However, I did get revenge on one cheating BF who came back to me, only for me to find that he was living with someone else. I told her the truth, and she and I got on the phone together and called him. It was priceless! And all I did was tell the truth. I told her it was her decision to make whether to stay with him or not, but she needed to know the truth. She left, she came back, she left, he tried to come back to me again, I laughed at him in front of his friends. Revenge is sweet sometimes.

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talented_ink 3 years ago

Brilliant hub! I read a hub Julie Johnson wrote about forgiveness and I also wrote one a while ago called self empowerment through forgiveness. The point is you have covered what we both said so well and it's amazing how much forgiveness helps out the forgiver.

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

Dafla, if faced with a similar situation, I probably would have done the same. If not in the name of revenge, at least in the name of justice. The other woman had every right to know.

talented_ink, I read your hub and enjoyed it. I had also read the one by Julie Johnson yesterday. Both were very well done.

Thank you both!

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talford 3 years ago

You are a talented writer. You have been able to draw me in twice already. Good job.

Tom

P.S. I heard an old Chinese proverb one time, "He that seeks revenge needs to dig two graves. One for his enemy and one for himself."

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

talford-

I promise I wasn't trying to trick you- just make you think a little. Thank you for your kind words and for reading my hubs...

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Karen N Level 3 Commenter 3 years ago

Really good hub!

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

Thanks so much for reading Karen N. Glad you enjoyed the hub... :-)

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Cailin Gallagher 3 years ago

Excellent writer. I love this article. I like your take on forgiveness as the best revenge.

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C.V.Rajan Level 2 Commenter 3 years ago

Hi,

You have the knack of choosing very catchy titles that will attract readership. You write well too. Perhaps you could look at the length of the article and prune it a bit.

CVR

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

Cailin Gallagher- Thank you for your kind words.

C.V.Rajan- I have never claimed to be a writer, but I do love to write. I’ll see what I can do about revising this hub a little when I get a chance… :-)

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Social Conscience 3 years ago

Wow, that billboard is almost too much!

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

That one was a little harsh. Thanks so much for reading...

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flutterbug77 3 years ago

Nice Hub! I try to forgive and let go. They say being angry shortens your life.

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

I couldn't agree more.

I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment...

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michellemoseley 3 years ago

Great hub. Having a couple of chances to get my revenge was tempting. I thought about how it would feel. Finally giving him what he deserved after all he had done. Guess what, I never did a thing. He ended up in jail for violating a restraining order. Sometimes things have a way of taking care of themselves.

Since, I have forgiven and moved on. Life is good!!!

Michelle

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

Some call it Karma... But you will always have the satisfaction of knowing you didn't sink to his level and thankfully, you didn't have to... :-)

ana 3 years ago

i totally disagree. I got my revenge and now I CAN SLEEP!!!

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Bob Davis 3 years ago

Excellent Hub, and well written. I get the feeling that you are wise and a basically good and honest person,

I am goimg to write a hub in the near future which will be more for requesting advice than for providing all solutions. I hope that you will comment when I do.

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Victel 3 years ago

Great hub and I love the funny pictures!

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

Thank you Bob and Victel for your kind words and for reading this hub.

As for you ana- as long as you can sleep... I just know from my own experience that revenge is sweet, but only for a short time. Forgiveness is definitely the best way to deliver peace of mind for me.

Best to you all... :)

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Christoph Reilly Level 2 Commenter 3 years ago

Hi, New Reflection. I loved this hub. Funny and scary at the same time. You're right, of course, about the moving on part. Life's to short to waste time being angry. Still, when the wound is fresh, imaginging various - shall we say - actions you COULD take, sure can make you feel better. One of my favorite quotes from literature is from Poe (wouldn't you know): "A wrong is unredressed when the redressor fails to make himself known as such to he who has done the wrong." This just before he walls the guy up with bricks in the catecombs. That Poe cracks me up!

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betherickson 3 years ago

Hi! You're hub is very terrific. I love reading it. Great and inspirational lesson to learn. Thumbs up for you! :)

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Patty Inglish, MS Level 7 Commenter 3 years ago

Very good and entertaining Hub with a good ending lesson. Brava!

The Jill Clayburg film An Unmarried Woman similarly used the line The Best Revenge is Success.  Add forgiveness and it's more success. 

bab 3 years ago

What a load of shite!!!!!!

Succeed yes, be all you can be blah blah blah

but make them pay too.

then and only then will you be even.

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New Reflection Hub Author 3 years ago

Oh bab,

Getting even only brings temporary satisfaction.  As someone who has been around a while, it is nice to look back on situations where I could have really jabbed a knife in the back of someone who did me wrong (metaphorically speaking) and I did not and know I did the right thing.  Taking the high road and staying above the fray has never disappointed me or any one else I know that has done the same.  You’ll just have to trust me on this one.

Thanks for reading… :)

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teeray 3 years ago

Nice hub - the pictures are great!

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JNitchie 3 years ago

I love the topic that you chose to write about. I myself have been wanting to exact revenge on someone off and on for a long time even though I have forgiven them before. The problem is that just when I can stand to look at them again, I'll find out something else horrible that they've done and then want revenge all over again.I also loved all the pictures and quotes that you put on your hub you made me laugh out loud; though I won't really put any of it into practice. I have however taken note of the different revenge agencies that you've listed.

gabriel 3 years ago

I stumbled upon this blog and I'm glad I did. Just recently someone did something wrong against me and my family and revenge is too tempting. Some of my friends want me to get even, the others just want me to get over it and move on. If I have only one option I'd take the last one. Your post gave me a reason to take stock of my life and look ahead at better things. Thank you for posting this.

mit 3 years ago

this is complete crap. people who pretend to forgive NEVER have any peace. the only sense of peace and restoration of personal emotional equilibrium is when you've returned the favor to the perpetrator in some form. that is the ONLY way out short of lying and self delusion.

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New Reflection Hub Author 2 years ago

Thank you all for the comments...

mit- I am sorry to learn that you are such an angry person. Emotional equilibrium is not contingent upon exacting revenge... and if you are honest with yourself, you will come to the same conclusion.

Thanks for reading and for taking the time to comment...

Dan 2 years ago

Totally useless information

Ashley 2 years ago

Thank you for all of this information. I was feeling deeply lost and confused about some current events in my life where an individual caused me much grief. I was actually looking for revenge when I found this page and I'm glad I found it. I feel a sense of peace now...the pain is definitely still there but I know what I have to do now. Thank you.

Marie 2 years ago

I would like to forgive this person, but she keeps on doing the same stuff over and over. It is getting harder and harder to forgive.

Habaroa 2 years ago

This has helped me get over my ex-girlfriend dating with my bestfriend behind my back.

I'm moving on from them 2 and thank you so much for this.

This quote you put:

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.

I love it, really no reason to get even and to lower yourself to their level. I am going to continue living my own life and be happy and I know that's going to be revenge enough for both of them

God Bless

Paris 23 months ago

Thank YOU! This made my day and put my soul at peace. I was boiling over my betrayal! And I felt the satisfaction of revenge would take at least some of the pain away… This site and quotes really opened my eyes to how revenge is only a confession of pain. And while thinking of plotting revenge you’re a prisoner to that pain. You’ll only be hurting YOURSELF in an attempt to hurt the person who hurt you. The best revenge IS to forgive, not for the other person but for you. Thanks Again :-)

janice wilkes 21 months ago

I have a friend and she wants revenge on these people and she wants someone to go to three different houses and scare these people. She is wondering does anyone knows anybody that can be a rough neck or in a gang, if so she wants someone to go to this address 6050 S Western Ave Apt 405 Los Angeles, CA 90047, she wants someone to call 3237528132 and threaten them over the phone. These people are about 5'5, 5'6, and 6'1, when going to the place ask for ray cooks, ruben broaster, and abraham so someone can kick their asses. Use your fists and use something to scare these people to death

gustav 21 months ago

Somethin very bad happended yesterday, but I'll do as the Talmud says:"Live well. It is the greatest revenge".

that guy 21 months ago

you know i might get some haters for this comment but some of the revenge quotes are shown in mw2 (modern warfare 2)

definitely 19 months ago

Totally agree with mit. Indeed, the only way to completely get over it is to serve your enemy the EXACT form of treatment. As the saying goes..do not onto others what you do not wish others to do onto you. So, since they've already done it, why not follow the saying and giveth back. INSTEAD OF BEING A LOSER & PRETENDING TO FORGIVE.

Lenore 19 months ago

Thank you so much for writing this, and everyone's comments. Reading this literally just stopped me in my tracks, from an act of revenge on someone who has caused me so much heartache. I made up my mind to forgive and forget... however long it takes. I feel lighter and happier already!!

Melissa 18 months ago

This article saved me from myself. I left my husband for a man I met and fell in love with. I lost my house, I almost lost my children. I struggled for 2 years and finally ended up living at my grandmothers with my 4 children. There's MY bad karma.

The man I left him for turned out to be a person who just used women and cheated on everyone. He took advantage of me in the end. He cheated on me and left me for another woman. I was so hurt and alone. I'd given up everything for him.

I wanted to extract revenge. I have a degree in computer science and searched all hacking sites and started plotting. I did many things to him but never felt any better until one night when I came across this site.

I've forgotten whats important. He made me hate myself and the only way I can be happy is to move on and love myself again.

Marie 18 months ago

The recession has been tough with no raises nor bonuses and decreased benefits. I was given a job offer with increased pay and benefits. I took the offer in good faith in June 2010. It was the most horrible law firm ever. I was subjected to foul language, sexual innuendos, false accusations, innappropriate touching, poor training and structure. After the 4th complaint the abuse escalated and I was let go. It seems that other employees knew I was going to be let go, giving them license to continue the abuse which escalated. I was devastated b/c I'd only been there 2 months and left a good job for what I thought was a better job. I have nothing but anger.

I've recently discovered that one of the women who abused me has a criminal record. I so want her to suffer, then I realized that she is suffering. You've heard that saying to not judge anyone until you've walked a mile in their shoes. Someone recently told me to imagine waking up as these women and to imagine my life as them. I realized they have miserable lives with little joy nor respect for themselves.

Altough I still have anger and continue to pray and look for employment, I awake as myself and not these horrible souls.

That is my revenge.

Godforgiveme 18 months ago

I came to this page looking for revenge, but this post really changed my mind. Thank you.

vindication 16 months ago

My husband was having an affair with a very attractive married girl at work (using the excuse of working late) of course he was. Her office was located quite close to the door of the gents toilets.

I made him a lovely meal and added that extra special little ingredient.......10 senakots.

Three days in the gents! What must she have thought? Grunting and groaning coming from the cubicles and other men coming and going with smiles on their faces.

I felt so sorry for him and 'acted' the perfect little wife, tending his every need. Course I did.

Revenge was very sweet. Now very much divorced and happier for it, it still brings a smile 26 years later.

Bless you Dave, if you're still alive.

Anangeltoday 16 months ago

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Still sad 15 months ago

Hello, I enjoyed your post. My boyfriend & I had a long distance relationship. He broke up with me on NYE. Not only did he make me feel like the break up was my fault, he also cut all communication with me. About a week ago he came clean and admitted that he had been deceiving me the entire relationship. He laughed about it and called me a fool. I was devistated. I sent an email to one of the girls he cheated on me with to let her know that he was probably lying to her too. This made him angry and that gave me satisfaction. I still wanted to make him feel the pain that I felt and began to search for ideas when I came across this site. Thanks for giving me a different perspective on getting revenge.

Nancy 15 months ago

Enjoyed your perspective and am pleasantly surprised to not see juvenile pranks/suggestions for revenge. I am a codependent and thought that I could help someone get/stay clean. We'd been together 14 years and I recently discovered he was doing drugs and having an affair. I knew he was messing around with someone but it wasn't until I found out he was doing drugs again that I decided it was time to end it. When you say its better to be happy being alone vs being miserable with someone I couldn't agree with you more. I still worry about him but try to remember how miserable things were and that I can't change him. I wasted 14 years trying to do this and I fear he may kill himself once he is faced with reality. Alanon meetings helped me see that I wasnt the only one going through this. If you are in a relationship where you think you can save someone or are putting up with abuse then please take my advice and get out before you waste another moment of either or your lives. The only person that you can change is yourself.

Marika 14 months ago

My ex husband had many affairs. With his brothers wife, dental assistant, who sadly killed herself, multiple patients and a patient who he is currently with. They vacationed together and were asked to depart from Las vegas separately because this woman caused a scene in the airport. She called my home, my children and even vandalized my home. My ex continued to deny the affair and even lied to the police when I filed for harressment. Liar and coward. When asked for help from his mother, she said "son be happy" "do what you want" And called me a "nut". She even entertained the other woman while we were still married. PIG. That is so wrong!! As their affair continued she also tried to kill herself with sleeping pills,he ran to her side, weak...I eventually filed for divorce. My ex and his girlfriend continue to bash me around their family, friends and dental staff... where is the code of ethics? God Bless you Janet! I hope your family see's you for what you are! Looking at her family and friends.. I can see the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...

13 months ago

I'm apologizing in advance for the length, but this is still pretty fresh, and honestly when you read this, you'll see why my friends hate this guy & I can't really talk to them much about it...

I reunited with a guy I was very very close with a few years ago after nnot being in touch for awhile. We met when we were 1 5 years old, my best friend at the time introduced us. We hit it off immediately, on the phone all night..we dated for a few months in high school, he cheated on me, we broke up but still had a thing from time to time. Underneath all that, we were also very very best of friends, and i t seemed the friendship meant a lot to each of us.

So we reunite years later after I was divorced & he had ended a 10 year relationship 2 years earlier. We admitted we both had those old romantic feelings & tried to give it another go. During the course of time apart, he ever moved from his parents house (we are in our early 30's now), yet I had been independent since the age of 17. He has a criminal record with felonies from selling weed years ago & I came to find out he was addicted to painkillers. I don't have any of those issues. But I stood by & tried to help him find work & encourage him to get help for the drugs.

He'd been talking to his ex a lot, to the point where I told him you know, I don't want to interfere with anything, I know you were together a long time...he assured me no worry. Then on my way to work one morning, I see his car at her house (she lived in my neighborhood). I was pissed. I even asked her the same thing & she said they were done, just friends. But this sleepover crap went on & on. She felt threateend by me, started interfering, and drugs or no drugs, John was a fucking dog with girls back in the day & old habits die hard. But I thought he'd come around. Went through 2 breakups with him where we didn't alk for months & then we'd talk & for me all the feelings came back & for him it was playtime again.

He ruined 2 Christmases & New Years with this crap. Was close with his mom & she was helping him lie the whole time. It all came to a head this January when I was told he got the other girl pregnant. I am devastated over this. I confronted him, we got in a HUGE fight, I told him I hope his kid is stillborn, he's a POS, etc., etc. Said some horrible things, and I am best to battle with words. Deeds sure I can do them, but my best damage is done wby the pen. I screamed, I threw a fit, his whole neighborhood heard, yadda yadda.

Have not talked in 5 months. He actually expected me to stick around while he sees this girl through a pregnancy, with all his how do we even know it's mine horsecrap. I said you brought me to your family's for Christmas, I brought you to mine, how do I explain something like this to my dad, let alone take myself seriously, are you effin NUTS??? He wouldn't stop bothering me, you know this guy went as far to say ooh it's probably better we try a relationship now because when we were younger, you probably would've caught me messing around..saying this while he WAS ACTIVELY messsing around?? What human being lies like that???

I am having an IMPOSSIBLE time letting this go, even knowing that he is crappin his pants if he is having a kid, because he & his enabling mother are in no shape to handle this. It feels like it's not enough for me, I am so angry that he treated me this way, completely tossed the friendship in the trash, nothing is salvageable. I should've seen it coming, but thought I meant more. I guess there's always people you care about you come to find mean more to you than you do to them. I feel like I have half a lifetime full of these b.s. meaningful memories with this guy that I don't know what to do with.

haeven 12 months ago

Lol

i was burning and you calm me down man

thank you anyway

sandra 10 months ago

Hi, very nice article .But sometimes resentment can be so painful ! The worst thing is when you are confused and undecided about it! knowing that forgiveness is the best thing to do, but being unable to forgive because you're really hurt and still suffering is a problem.

I hope you can give some advices . thank you

alexus 9 months ago

nice revnges

Hanging by a thread 7 months ago

My husband of 23 years, who always told me he couldn't ask for a better wife and would go on and on about how much he loved me, suddenly fell in love with a married woman in the spring of 2008, and they romanced each other for 2 and 1/2 years while waiting for her husband to die, who was in need of a second heart transplant and couldn't get it. Meanwhile, I still did not leave him, even after all these years of feeling like I didn't matter. I was constantly left sitting home alone while he went out hunting, fishing, playing karaoke, cards, visiting friends, etc, and after he met his girlfriend Ina, he would be gone for days at a time, at his sister's, as his sister was her best friend and lived down the street from her and they would all hang out together. I was never included in the financial decisions, and he kept making one financial blunder after another, getting us deeper and deeper in debt, while I did without EVERYTHING and he got everything he wanted. I didn't even have any say in him getting a vasectomy after my son was born. I wanted 1 more child so my son would have a sister or brother to grow up with and someone else to be there for him throughout his life and at holidays after my husband and I pass away, but no, he went ahead and did it anyway and didn't care what my feelings were, so now my son will have no one when we are gone. I had no regular medical care until April of 2010, I wore the same glasses for 8 years and the pair before that was 13 years, I have had to go without the medical care and new glasses and much-needed dental work because we couldn't afford the out-of-pocket expenses...... I have had one cheap Walmart purse for 20 years, my one and only purse, never more than one half-good pair of shoes and an old pair of sneakers at a time, no more than 2 pairs of pants and 2 or 3 shirts at a time, could not buy makeup and skin creams and perfume like other women or get my hair done, because there was always a stack of bills needing to be paid. Meanwhile, my husband kept wasting more and more money. I worked for 10 years of the marriage, taking 7 off after having my son, and then I quit in March of 2005 because of back and hip problems. I missed the 5-year disability deadline that I did not even know about, and did not have enough medical proof to back up my claim, because I couldn't afford to go to the doctor for tests, so I have been turned down twice for disability and am waiting for a hearing, which I hear I can't get for 1 year. Meanwhile, we have been in the process of a divorce since April of 2011. He left me on Halloween night of 2010, even though his girlfriend of 2 and 1/2 years had already dumped him a few months after her husband died in Feb of 2010, and she moved out of state. He has been cold and hateful to me ever since he met her, even though I have done nothing wrong, and he continues to be hateful to me, and is trying to cheat me out of everything in the divorce, though I have no income, and he doesn't care if I lose my home and end up homeless and with no medical insurance, even though I have Diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, arthritis in my back and hips, breathing problems, etc. I have no idea of what is going to happen to me, but I am even more worried about what will happen to my 4 cats. I have never felt as depressed and scared and helpless in all my life, and when I discovered a little while ago that he has given a lot of my stuff that was in the garage and storage building away to his relatives and friends, I was ballistic! He is a cold-hearted, lying, cheating, selfish coward who cannot act responsibly or maturely, and I have taken an hard, objective look at him and our marriage since learning about Ina in 2008 and being treated like a nobody for so many years. I have come to the conclusion that I am a lot better off without him and glad to be rid of him. It is HE that is the loser. I was an excellent wife to him and loved him and stood by him through everything and in spite of his faults, but he has totally destroyed everything. I do not regret marrying him, because I got a wonderful son out of the deal. The light of my life, 22 years old and an amazing young man. My soon-to-be ex has done so many things that anger and frustrate me that I cannot begin to include it all, but it is a humongous amount of stuff I have put up with. Even in the divorce, with him trying to cheat me out of what I deserve just to save himself money and lying under oath and trying to get me to pay 1/2 the debts he created out of my half of the 401K even though I have no income, and trying to get my mobile home repossessed and on and on, I have tried to remain calm and not get into fights with him, as it would only escalate things and would hurt my son, but it is getting harder and harder to stay calm, like when I found out about all the stuff of mine in the garage and storage building that he had given away without asking. I was on here looking for revenge, but your article helped give me back a bit of sanity. I know that everyone says to forgive and move on and that hatred and anger only hurts the one who is feeling the hatred and anger. I KNOW that is right, it is just very hard to do, so I have to just trust in God to handle it, hope for karma to even the score, and have hope that life will get revenge on him FOR me while I try to stay out of it and do the best I can and have faith that there will be some kind of justice in this world for me in the divorce and with the SSD, because I don't know how I am going to survive without enough money, medical insurance, or my home, and I especially am not going to give up my cats. They are my family, my babies, and they have been my source of comfort, companionship, and love for years that my husband was not giving me, and are the reason I get out of bed each day. The humane society is always backed up for over a year and wouldn't ever take any strays that came to my door, I will not never take them to a kill shelter, I don't know anyone who would take them and I would be haunted by not knowing what was happening to them or how they would ultimately end up, I am not allowed to have any pets if I have to go to public housing, I am all they have ever known, and I cannot stand the thought of giving them up, it makes me cry like crazy to think of it, and I would sooner put a bullet in my head. Everyone please pray for us. I am trying to hang on but it gets harder and harder with each passing day.

Sweet 6 months ago

I don't understand the lack of satisfaction you describe. I feel great satisfaction at even the smallest acts of revenge against someone who hurt me deliberately years ago. Not only do I not feel bad I feel great that she suffered some pain for what she did even if it was small. I don't get satisfaction from taking the high road to avoid revenge- I consider I'm ON the high road despite the revenge and that is sweet.

Also I think it's pure poison to tell people to forgive injustice and cruelty. Write it off as pathetic and beneath contempt sure, let it go so you don't spend any energy on it but do it on your terms not by forgiving them! They say it isn't letting someone off the hook- of course it is! Writing then off however is the way to go.

air1409 6 months ago

Thanks so much for your article. Just today I decided to start live well. I agree, the best revenge is living well although at first it will be hard. But I must do that. Someone has hurt me a lot. I love him so much but I felt this is first time I've been deceived by someone & the worst thing is that someone is the one I love most now. Thanks. You gave me more encouragement to move on. Keep writing :)

poo82 6 months ago

Just had a baby father has been very mean to me after 4 years. He did and said a lot of hurtful things as far as he didn't want my child. After he begged me to have him lied and said he didn't want mt

poo82 6 months ago

Continue: my child anyone.he started a whole bunch of drama. I almost participated but something told me not to anyway two weeks ago he got arrested and is facing about 15 years.

Biz 6 months ago

It's hard not to want revenge when you have been so badly hurt and the other person continues to hurt you and your family. My husband left myself and children on holiday so he could move his girlfriend into our home. The girlfriend was a friend! Myself and children had to move in with my elderly parents, where i had to find schools for the children etc. They didn't have their toys, clothes etc around them. I had to help them through the pain of what their father did to them and me.

He continues to try and force this woman into their lives, and friends tell me to forgive and move on!

My life has been taken by my "Friend"

My home. my husband etc

I cannot understand how what they did and do is right.

How can i forgive?

docrock33 4 months ago

My girl friend and I dated for over 8 months. She said she wanted a relationship and wanted someone to treat her good. Well I bought her flowers for no reason, we spent a lot of time over the holidays exchanging gifts and I spent a lot of money on her and even helped her fix up a rent house that she was selling since she is a realtor. Anyways just when things were looking like I was doing all the right things she said a girlfriend had a ticket to the Cotton Bowl to go to Dallas stadium and her boyfriend got sick and could not go so she was going with her girlfriend to the game at the last minute the day before the game. I was so stupid that I even offered to keep her 11 year old son while she was gone and told her to have a good time. While she was gone she did not text or answer my phone calls. I became suspicious but gave her the benefit of doubt. She posted a pic of Dallas stadium and commented that she was having a great time in Dallas. Her girlfriend commented "Wish I was there with ya!" Busted! She must have not checked her facebook account because she called me a couple of days later and said she missed me and I wanted to see how far she would go in this lie so I asked whose car they took and she said her girlfriends, I said really, that's funny because she commented how she was not there with you. She got silent as I could tell her mind was racing to figure out what to say. I said you were with a guy in a hotel room in Dallas weren't you? She said it's complicated and he is just a friend and I would not understand. She then hung up on me and blocked my phone number and deactivated her facebook account. She did not even say she was sorry or try to explain. She just said she only lied because she wanted to go to the game and he was just a friend and knew I would never understand. Why do people say that they want a relationship and want someone to love them if they really do not? I feel used and betrayed and did not even get to tell her what I feel or think about what she did. She has just cut me off and I thought she was my best friend and lover. I really do not know why people use other people and hurt people. I treated her so good and now she acts like I never existed. It is hard to heal when I feel like I meant nothing to her. I don't think I will ever trust anyone ever again. Please give me any advice because it has been a rough couple of weeks for me. Thanks.

NO MORE ANGER 3 months ago

im soo at peace after reading this be thankfull because i have a verry HOT HEAD AND VERY CAPABLE OF DOING SOMETHING VERY REGRETABLE ..THANK YOU ITS NOT WORTH IT

mark 2 months ago

Not point in revenge on relationships as they are fickle, period! But what if you can't "move on and succeed"? I can forgive but I'm screwed still and this will go on for sometime. So it's back to me or him. It may have to be both as I'm not going to prison.

linson 2 months ago

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Marge 2 months ago

What I have learned after 22 years of my ex-husband being the winner: got rich got the kids got his old girlfriend: from a picture she looks like she is trying too hard and he looks miserable. The grandchildren look like me.

ethan 7 weeks ago

okay nice hub thks will forgive thks really helped

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5 weeks ago

This is very true. Great read, really reflects what I'm going through now

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livelove 4 weeks ago

Excellent. thanks for adding the humor of what we think often about. I am reminded while reading this hub one important thing. When God is with you, who can be against you? I trust in the Lord and he will direct my path. even when people are plotting against me, God will show me the way. Amen.

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flippy 3 weeks ago

If someone brakes something you like brake something they like

Red 2 weeks ago

You have got to be kidding me! Revenge is not the answer although I do understand. My husband left a good marriage after 21 years. It hurt like hell on earth. That was three years ago and it still hurts. You can not allow someones decision to destroy your life like that. I can see that 'now' that all of the fog has lifted and soon you will too; if you so choose. You have to forgive and let go and allow something/someone greater to enter into your life. Why on earth would you want to place a spell on someone who demonstrated their no longer wanting to be with you? You can't possibly be that desperate. You think you have won when you have won back someone who has left you, disrespected you, betrayed you, lied to you and betrayed you. If it was real they would come back with a full apology on their own! Really! That's your trophy? Please men and women become empowered by first loving yourself enough to know that you deserve better and if they left you learn to slowly digest and accept that. You can choose to forgive, choose to heal and choose to move on at your pace of course. But start living! You don't have to settle. Love 'yourself' in the same like manner that you would want to be loved!

To the gentleman that was used; I feel so bad for you because if feels awful being used by someone! I am there right now. A man took advantage of my vulnerable situation. I grieved, shouted how unfair - guess what - realized that there r some very mean and selfish people in this world. You may not get closure, just remember love and pain are synonymous with one another. Please don't change who you are because of her, because there are beautiful, intelligent, fun-loving women like myself, desiring what we are willing to offer. Keep your head handsome and know that she just wasn't not the one.

Mimi 2 weeks ago

Came across this when I was looking for the best way to revenge my soon to be ex husband who has been cheating and now we are separated and I sleep in my friends couch cos I don't have a place. I have cried, gotten angry, yelled and screamed but all this has not taken me anywhere. Reading this I realize it is pointless to dwell on the pain he has caused me. I am determined to get focused on me and rebuild myself again for our kids sake....

Arkanine 2 weeks ago

Revenge is just a matter of talk.The world has 9 nuclear nations with North Korea alone having the capacity to destroy the planet.Then there are extremists who can commit murder and other acts over the slightest provocation,it's all standing and existing on the maintainance of a moral code that dictates life and prevents excesses.The breaking of this moral code leads to abnormal behaviour or extremists acts which are then named on different reasons.Talking of revenge gives satisfaction for dramatisation like quoting from a book that has a dramatic passage of world personalities like Hitler or Napoleon,another coincidence is that revenge means your end and of the one you hate or seem to hate.

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